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*Wolvenhalo
Happy holidays! And a personal opinion.
fav.me/d4k6euoAs a trigger-warning, if some people need it, this is a personal opinion.
Happy christmas, happy hanukkah, happy late-diwali, happy nearly-new year, happy late-winter solstice.
Have a happy day, with a happy family. Eat good food, drink and be merry. Share time and stories with your families, with your friends. Forget about the world for one second, one day, one month.
Focus on yourself, and your family and friends. Notice the small things in life that make it what it is, those little things that you love. Whether you have no religion, be christian or jewish or muslim or hindu or buddhist or any of the many other religions that are part of people, love, and be loved. No capitals, everyone is human. One religion is not above another, nor above those without. Those without a religion still believe. They believe in themself, in the world, in those little, quirky things that define your life and that which you love.
I've seen recently, and you likely have too, that people react in some way or another to the widely popular christmas holiday.
I mean, one of my friends (cousins' cousin actually, but that's just confusing), a co-worker at wherever she works sent my friend a diwali card. My friend's fine with this (I mean, why wouldn't you be? It's not the point that you don't celebrate their festival, it's the thought that counts), but the girl's mum doesn't like christmas cards. The family (likely the parents, I think either the girl was okay with it or had been raised narrowly by her parents) took offence by the card and then moved back to India.
Another example is many (<- key word, definitely not all, or even a majority) christians try to force christmas onto some people, or, if say a family celebrates christmas even if they're not religious, they try to weight that this is the celebration of jesus' birth.
Personally, I find christmas a very family, social holiday - not a religious one. This is my opinion. Please do not take offence by it.
Many christmas traditions are pagan. Example - kissing under the mistletoe. This tradition originates from the belief that mistletoe (which is a parasite plant, funny how they chose mistletoe) is the plant of fertility, etc. Hence why kissing under it is supposed to be lucky, and of good will.
Naturally, this all originates from superstition. Christian belief is against superstition, for example witches and other long passed over beliefs that aren't true, merely based on coincidences (though they believe in miracles, which technically is the same thing as superstition? Anyway, that's a personal opinion and I'm not going to go into it). Another example; christmas trees are, in fact, yule trees. Decorating a 'christmas' tree is a yule tradition. Yule is a pagan celebration.
So, why can't non religious or non-christian people celebrate christmas? Why do some religious/non-religious people take offence when presented with, for example, a christmas card?
Further, why do some christians (note, some) take offence when they are presented with other religious traditions?
Behind all this, it should be the thought that counts.
If a friend of mine presents me with a diwali card, I will accept it graciously. They took the time to write me one, and it's the thought that they choose to include me in their celebration that counts.
If I'm invited to someone's bar mitzvah, I will most certainly go! The invitation is what counts, the celebrating is what counts. The being happy for one reason or another - that's what counts.
I understand, some people take their religion very seriously, and feel that going to another religious event is against their religion. I understand this.
But I think, all in all, most (I would say all, but there are personal and maybe other main religions that do not agree with this), most religions make a point that all people are equal. So, why should you not celebrate a friend's celebration? It means a lot to them. Be glad that you are a part of it, be glad that you can share your friend's joy and the celebratory atmosphere. In this world, it's the little things that count.
I understand people being reluctant to celebrate another religion's festival.
I don't understand people being reluctant to let another religion celebrate their own festival. I don't understand people trying to force their beliefs upon others, saying this is how you should follow this religion, take part in this festival, remember to remember this person or pray to this one.
I understand personal festivals, or celebrations, or traditions. For example, fasting. I know some people who fast with their partner or girl/boyfriend when they do, even though they are both different religions or one has no religion at all. They do this to share, to connect, to celebrate another's beliefs. It's not what they believe in that counts - it's what they do with what they believe in.
As an atheist, (you were probably expecting this), I believe in myself, in my friends, in my family and in my life. I believe in what's around me. I believe in morals, I believe in laws, I believe in how I live my life. I believe in kindness, sharing, and thankfulness. Just because I do not follow a religion, does not mean I don't have rules of my own - a code of conduct to live by.
I love my friends for who they are. Some are religious, some or not. We celebrate festivals, whether they be of this religion or this religion, because we believe in the meaning of these festivals. It doesn't matter what god or deity or faith this tradition gives thanks to, respects, worships or celebrates - it's the meaning. It's the sociality. It's the feeling of being a part of something, because, on that day or that month or maybe even just that second - everyone else in that festival or tradition is alongside you. With you. In that moment, everyone's on the same page, everyone is special.
For, doesn't everyone need a moment in their life to be happy? To forget the world for one second, one day, one month? Let yourself see the people around you. Everyone is human, everyone is a person. Everyone has feelings, everyone has morals (yes, even a serial killer with many a person's blood on their hands), everyone is with you, on this planet, in this world, standing with you.
I don't see how someone could reject an invitation given in good faith (and I do not mean religious faith, I mean moral faith), to join them in a celebration? What is the definition of celebration? A time to celebrate. A tradition, festival or time of the day to celebrate.
Celebration is a time for happiness. For joy. For kindness and sharing.
Do we not all respect these simple things..?
Please, this is a note to tell you, please don't discriminate between religions, or atheism. Please don't treat someone as something lower than you because they do not do the same as you do, do not celebrate your religion.
Invite them to join you. Invite someone next year, or next celebration, to join you in it. Invite them to join you in celebrating the little things in life.
Because that's what counts, isn't it?
From RavenWolfe0
This is exactly the way all of us should be. More Tolerant and Respectful of Others and Their Beliefs whether we agree with them or not.